Fob revelation: the shoes must come off!

OK, here’s a scenario for you to ponder. Obviously you know you’re a fob when you have to take your shoes off before entering your house.  We all know that.  But what if it’s not your house, and the host keeps his shoes on in the house?

This weekend, I stood at my friend’s parents’ doorway feeling horribly torn — they kept their shoes on in the house.   Should I take my shoes off?  Or would that make me look odd?  Should I just enter, and walk around with my shoes *gasp* on?!

My friend saw my dilemma, and insisted I just walk in with my shoes on.

The experience was more uncomfortable than walking around in five-inch heels that are a size too small.

It sounds silly but I seriously could not think about anything else the whole time.  I just wanted to take my shoes off!  The worst was when I walked on the carpeted parts of the house.  I was picturing all the dirt I’d walked on in grimy downtown San Francisco, all the gunk of strolling around Oakland Chinatown that’s now being imprinted all over the beautiful carpet.  And didn’t I just barely miss stepping on dog poop the other day?  All that stuff, just getting ingrained in that soft, fully carpet.  Oh, the guilt of being raised a bona fide fob.

What would you do in this situation?  Walk around sans shoes on the admittedly dirty floor?  Or defy your fobby side and keep the shoes on?


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  • Lianne

    I can’t imagine why anyone would want to keep their shoes on in the house. All of my friends and family have a no shoes rule, as i do myself. When I visit them I take my slippers with me to change into when I arrive. But if someone insisted that I keep my shoes on then I would reluctantly do so.

  • Ray

    I share your sentiment about all the dirt, grime, poo and heaven know what else might be tracked in by people wearing their shoes in the house. But remember, this family has already accepted this and the indoors isn’t much different than the outdoors anymore. So treat that home as if you were still walking outdoors and keep your shoes on!!

  • Elen

    This happens to me all the time when I go to a friend’s house. I just immediately take my shoes off without thinking, it just comes naturally. I had the same dilemma last weekend, I had heels on and they have been sinking in the dirt and when I was invited to walk into the house I immediately hesitated. These are the kind of situations where you just don’t know what to do.

  • A really interesting post! Thanks for bringing up the subject.

    I’m militant about people removing their shoes in my house. I always take my shoes off when visiting others, even when I know they keep their shoes on. It’s just habit and the desire to set an example.

    I have an whole blog about removing shoes in homes: Shoes Off at the Door, Please You might like to take a look.

  • This has never been an issue for me…pretty much everyone (of all races) with maybe 1 or 2 exceptions whose houses I’ve visited left their shoes at the door anyway (or boots in winter). It makes no sense to wear shoes inside the house and spread all that dirt from outside to inside the house. I don’t even see it as a cultural issue but a practical one of cleanliness (and not wanting to vacuum).